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looking for answers in the night sky.

1. Went not-camping in the not-woods with estrellada and a mutual netude last not-weekend (um. We left on Thursday and came back on Saturday. Yes). It was fun and a good use of some of my week of vacation, but was also a lot of intense being with people all the time, which was mostly okay because I like those two people! But was also difficult and then I came home and Rafael was all like, "OMG I MISSED YOU SO MUCH!!!" and so I haven't really had a chance to decompress. Well. I did yesterday a bit, and I will tonight after work. And I am right now, in fact, because I have a three-hour break and all the other union people are on vacation now, so I have the office all to myself (mwahaha).

2. ...Anyway. People are hard! There are so many of them, everywhere! What is this nonsense! Get off my lawn!

3. So I read a BBB story a few/couple weeks ago that was all about kinky things, and I quite enjoyed it, except for that I felt many of the "In Real Life" kinky things were done wrong? Or, at least, really, were done in such a way that I wanted to wag my finger and frown and put my hands on my hips at the characters (...much as I do In Real Life when my kinky friends do things of which I Disapprove [and then add to my fetish list six months later, whatever]). I'll probably rec it soon, I just need to figure out how I'm going to say, "UGH, INADVISABLE BEHAVIOUR IS INADVISABLE" without sounding like a judgmental jerkface.

4. And then there was the time I tried to read another Big Bang story, in a different fandom, this one with a professional dungeon in? And I facepalmed a lot? And then the play scenes started and I had to stop reading it, because I wanted to make really sarcastic comments and then flounce out of the story. I think it's just not very well-written, is all. Whereas the author above had obviously done a ton of research and maybe even had some RL experience, and was not untalented, and I just Disapproved of how certain characters (...some of whom were OCs, I don't even know, guys) chose to do things (or did things without knowing they had other options).

5. I finished rewatching Everwood s1 last night. Oh, I cried and cried and cried (in frustration during "Episode 20," because UGH, thanks for letting the girl get an abortion for once, but SERIOUSLY, still full of misogyny! Not bad for 2003, though, I guess). Stupid show. Maybe tonight I'll start s2. Hmm.

6. I am keeping up with my flist and rpage and trying to comment more (with limited success, I'm sure). I do care about all of you, and hope you're doing well/able to cope with whatever is happening in your life right now.

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Jul. 6th, 2010 11:34 pm (UTC)
1. ♥ I'm glad that you basically had a good time, though. Good times are good. \o/

3. Probably you are talking about the one I read and.... Hahah, okay, you know what? The mental health aspect of all of that actually bothered me more. Like, the kink was no more than I expected even if I was like :/ sometimes. Whatever, I wasn't judging. It all fell within my range of expectation. But I got all ~*sensitive snowflake*~ about stuff when it came to the business of being crazy.
Jul. 7th, 2010 04:23 am (UTC)
1. Indeed :)

3. Oh dude, yes, totally--the mental health stuff is seriously part of my Disapproval of how certain things were done/not done/I can't believe someone was able to make me unhappy about That Guy (preserve the Super Sekrit Pairing!) being a top, omgwtfbbq!!!. I just didn't want to treat it as a separate issue, 'cause then it sort of sounds like I think crazy people shouldn't do kink, which would be ridiculous because then I'd never get laid. Etc.
Jul. 7th, 2010 04:40 am (UTC)
I spent a lot of time wanting to punch That Guy in the face. :/ I feel super guilty about that, too. It's just that everything (or a lot of things) with his view seemed to be presented as Right, and it felt less like "you need help for you" and more like "you need help and here's how it will happen because I know Best" or something equally infuriating. Idk, shit like that doesn't read as a choice anymore for the person who's supposed to need the help. Blah. I just couldn't tell if my own bad times were coloring my view of the situation.

I just didn't want to treat it as a separate issue, 'cause then it sort of sounds like I think crazy people shouldn't do kink, which would be ridiculous because then I'd never get laid. Etc.

*raises hand* That's basically why I haven't talked about it much before now, yes.
Jul. 7th, 2010 05:23 pm (UTC)
Yes, yes, exactly. Most of the things Sekrit Dom did to "help" Pete were cringe-inducing, and there weren't enough "ugh, I fucked up, sry" flailing apologies/amends made to make it obvious that he was doing it wrong and had learned other ways for a dominant to assist in those areas.

What, as crazy people (I am assuming you're okay with this terminology, please lmk if you're not, lol) who are kinky, it's hard for us to talk about kink and/or mental health? That doesn't make any sense! ;P
Jul. 8th, 2010 12:10 am (UTC)

What, as crazy people who are kinky, it's hard for us to talk about kink and/or mental health? That doesn't make any sense! ;p

Haha, I know, right? We're all supposed to be uninhibited and... stuff. Whoo. >_>
Jul. 6th, 2010 11:55 pm (UTC)
I've discovered that I have to suspend my disbelief more when kink is included in a story then when werewolves are. :P
Jul. 7th, 2010 04:26 am (UTC)

And I get kvetchy about it 'cause I'm like, "Seriously! This is simple stuff!" But really, it took me about three years of actually doing it as my primary relationship and doing organizing in the community and not writing or reading fiction about it, etc., etc., before I learned any of the Simple Stuff.

So, basically, I totally am being a judgmental jerkface. Whoo! \o/
Jul. 7th, 2010 04:40 am (UTC)
A ha. It happens.

It just makes me so uncomfortable to see characters doing things that are A Bad Idea in stories where the kink is presented as kink? ...if that makes any sense. When the kink is tangental, it doesn't bother me as much, but put that shit in a dungeon and I start making faces.
Jul. 7th, 2010 09:33 pm (UTC)
Yes, exactly! Keep it on the spaceship, guys!
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